Anger Management Counselling

sI provide anger management counselling in Canterbury. Call 01227 290 098 to arrange for an appointment. I will help you change. I am an experienced anger management counsellor. As a senior counsellor I have gained much insight into the process and control of anger.

If anger is causing you concern,  I can help you. As a counsellor I will undertake a full anger assessment and establish a meaningful way forward with you. I work alongside my colleague Natalie Prior.

Take our anger self assessment test here.

Anger Management Counselling in Canterbury Kent

Anger management counselling is a structured course of change. The anger management counsellor helps a person understand the source of their anger. The anger management counsellor shows the client how to control reactions. Counselling helps direct emotions towards a healthier path. Out of control emotions can bring on serious physical and mental health problems. Anger management counselling is a learning and respectful process. As an accredited counsellor in Canterbury I provide anger management counselling exactly along these lines.

See what my previous patients say about me here –  testimonials

Four Week Anger Management Course in Canterbury Kent

My Anger Management course is structured over 4 weekly sessions.  As a counsellor I focus on teaching you how to change your reactions. I will show you how to explore, own and change your self defeating behaviours. I will show you how past relationships dictate how we respond to certain circumstances.

Most of all this course places you at the heart of control, rather than at the centre of unwanted consequences.

If you are willing and prepared to change, I will help you. 01227 290 098

The counsellor

The counsellor is David Goodlad. David is a qualified and accredited counsellor with over 25 years experience in counselling. David is also an accredited psychotherapist. As a private counsellor he will assist in turning your powerful emotions around. He will help bring them back under your control.

What is Anger

Anger is an automatic response to perceived  ill-treatment. It is the way a person indicates he or she will not tolerate certain types of behaviour. It is a feedback mechanism in which an unpleasant stimulus is met with an unpleasant response.

Anger is part of our evolutionary equipment, an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended. It responds to being wronged or denied, with a tendency to automatic retaliation. Anger can cause physical consequences such as an increased heart rate, raised blood pressure, and raised levels of adrenaline.

Anger Management Help in Canterbury

As accredited counsellors, we have provided a service for anger management help in Canterbury for many years. Anger management counselling should do what it implies. It should directly counsel someone to manage and control their anger. We will help you achieve a new understanding through assessment, exploration and action. A meaningful plan will be developed based on what will be achieved. Cognitive and behavioural change will be undertaken and measured. We will help increase your empathy towards those important to you.

Anger Management Counselling Plan

An example of an anger management counselling plan is:

1. Fully assess behaviour, cognition, experience, environment, attachment, trauma and goals.

2. Explore attitudes, values, relationships and areas of change.

3. Understand decisions to be reached and the implications of any potential change

4. Measure the effect of new behaviour.

Consultation

For a private consultation with a fully qualified Psychological counsellor call 01227 290 098.  You can contact use in complete confidence If you are concerned about your own anger or someone else’s we can help. See our testimonials page.

Anger management counselling provides a sensitive yet structured way out of uncontrolled reactions. Below are a number of views describing how to manage anger without the help of a professional.

Understanding the need for Help with Anger Management

Anger is a “secondary” feeling. It immediately follows on from primary feelings such as  frustration, jealousy, fear and intolerance etc. A persons behaviour becomes very uncomfortable for all concerned. There is no conscious thought in this process. It is entirely automatic and entirely negative and destructive. However these negative automatic thoughts can be interrupted. Very often we don’t recognise the need for help with anger. It’s only obvious when things become intolerable for those around us. Call us before it gets too bad.

When angry your heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly. Your body is preparing for action. Tension can develop in your shoulders or you clench your fists. It is now too late to count to 10.

Before the above process begins, count to 10. Breathe slowly. We must stop holding our breath when feeling tense. Holding your breath can raise our anxiety levels considerably and thus increase your anger. Remember – breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you breathe out.

Managing anger in the longer term

Once you’re able to recognise the signs that you’re getting angry you can calm yourself down. You can start looking at ways to control your anger more generally.

Exercise. Regular light exercise has long been associated with improved well being. Most forms of physical exercise can have a positive beneficial effect. Take care of yourself. Take time to relax regularly. Ensure that you get enough sleep. Drugs and alcohol can and often do make anger problems worse – avoid them.

Manage Anger by being Creative

Writing, making music, dancing or painting, arts and crafts can release tension and help reduce feelings of anger. Talk about how you are feeling with a trusted person.

Discussing your feelings with a friend can be useful. Talk to get a different perspective on a troubling situation. Look at the way you think. Unhelpful ways of thinking will need re-adjusting.

Remember

Blaming and shaming thoughts make anger worse.

Using blaming and shaming words will keep you focused on being angry. Let these go and it will be a lot easier to calm down.

Call us for any of the following:

Anger Management – Couples Counselling – Relationships -Depression – Bereavement – Anxiety – Addictions – Postnatal Depression – Pre-Birth Concerns – Alcohol Counselling – Co-Dependency Counselling

We are only able to see clients strictly by appointment. 

A professional Psychological counselling service from a fully qualified counsellor within easy reach of Canterbury, Herne Bay, Dover, Folkestone, Deal, Whitstable, Minster, Sittingbourne, Ashford, Faversham, Whitfield, Sandwich. One minute from Canterbury East Station.

To arrange an appointment call 01227 290 098

Understanding your Anger

Anger causes mental health problems as well as physical consequences. The external expression of your anger might come through facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times in public acts of aggression.

When angry, humans and animals react automatically. They can make loud sounds, attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth, and stare. The behaviours associated with anger are designed to warn aggressors to stop their threatening behaviour. Rarely does a physical altercation occur, without the prior expression of anger by at least one of the participants. This is how we can unintentionally frighten our loved ones.

For a private consultation with a fully qualified therapist call 01227 290 098

Learning to Cope

There are numerous techniques that we employ in therapy. Below are self help based views on how to effectively cope with troublesome feelings. If you are concerned about your own or some else’s reactions contact us here.

When we become angry the heart beats faster and we breathe more quickly, preparing the body for action. There are other other noticeable signs such as tension in the shoulders or clenching of the  fists.

When anger builds we hold our breath. We often breathe in for up to four times longer than breathing out. This can raise our anxiety levels considerably and thus make us more prone to anger. Remember – breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you breathe out.

For a private consultation with a fully qualified Psychological therapist call 01227 290 098

Managing  in the longer term

If you can recognise the signs that you’re getting irritated and upset, we can help you can calm yourself down. We will introduce you to ways of how to  control your emotions more generally.

Healthy behaviour

Regular light exercise has long been associated with improved well being. Most forms of physical exercise can have a positive effect.

Take time to relax regularly and ensure that you get enough sleep. Drugs and alcohol can and often do make your problems worse. Try and be creative. Writing, making music and dancing or painting, arts and crafts can release tension and help reduce feelings and reactions. Talk about your concerns and hopes to someone you trust.

Manage angry thoughts and  feelings

Discussing your feelings with a friend can be useful. It can help you get a different perspective on a situation. Look at the way you think. Make an effort to change your automatic thinking patterns. Write them down. Look at alternative positive thoughts.

 

For a private consultation with a fully qualified therapist call 01227 290 098

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