Anger Management Counselling

sAs professional counsellors we have provided anger management counselling in Canterbury for many years. Call us and ask to see Natalie Prior. Natalie provides all our anger management counselling. Call now 01227 290 098

 

Anger Management Counselling in Canterbury Kent

Anger management counselling is a professional process of assisting a person to understand the source of their anger, helping them control it and then direct their emotions towards along a healthier path. Out of control anger can and does bring on long term physical and mental health problems. Anger management counselling is a structured and respectful process. As an accredited counsellor in Canterbury Natalie provides anger management counselling exactly along these lines.

Four Week Anger Management Course in Canterbury Kent

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This Anger Management course is structured over 4 weekly sessions. It focuses on teaching you how you process anger and how you set up your reactions. It will teach you how to explore, own and change your self defeating behaviour. It also identifies how past and current relationships play their part in dictating how you respond to certain circumstances.

 

Most of all, this course places you to be at the centre of control, rather than the centre of unwanted consequences.

 

If you are willing and prepared to change Natalie Prior will help you. 01227 290 098

What is Anger

If your own or someone elses anger is causing you concern,  Natalie can help you with an assessment of your anger concerns and establish a meaningful way forward.

 

Anger is an automatic response to ill treatment. It is the way a person indicates he or she will not tolerate certain types of behaviour. It is a feedback mechanism in which an unpleasant stimulus is met with an unpleasant response.

 

Anger is part of our evolutionary equipment, an emotion related to one’s psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged or denied and a tendency to undo that by retaliation. It can go wrong. Anger may have physical correlates such as increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenalin.

 

Anger Management Help in Canterbury

As senior accredited counsellors we have provided a service for anger management help in Canterbury Kent for many years. Anger management counselling should do what it implies, that is counsel someone to direct and control the anger. A new understanding is reached through assessment, exploring and understanding. A meaningful plan is developed based on what can realistically be achieved. Cognitive and behavioural change is undertaken and measured. We will help you increase your empathy towards those important in your life.

 

Anger Management Counselling Plan

An example of an anger management counselling procedure is:

 

1. Fully assess behaviour, cognition, experience, environment, attachment, trauma and goals.

2. Explore attitudes, values, relationships and areas of change.

3. Understand decisions to be reached and the implications of any potential change

4. Measure the effect of new behaviour.

 

 

For a private consultation with Natalie Prior a fully qualified Psychological counsellor call 01227 290 098.  You can contact her in confidence if you are concerned about your own anger or someone else’s. Canterbury based Counsellor

 

 

Anger management counselling provides a sensitive yet structured way out of instantly reactive behaviour. Below are a number of self help based views describing how to manage anger without the help of a professional.

 

 

Understanding the need for Help with Anger Management

Anger is a “secondary” feeling. It almost immediately follows on from primary feelings such as  frustration, jealousy, fear and intolerance to name just a few. This type of primary emotions are difficult in themselves to manageme. When anger is added on top life can become very uncomfortable for all concerned. There is no conscious thought in this process. It is automatic and entirely negative and destructive. However these negative automatic thoughts can be interrupted. Very often we don’t recognise we need help with anger management. Often it’s only when things become intolerable for those around us that we reach out. Call before it gets too bad.

 

When becoming angry the heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly, preparing your body for action. You might also notice other signs, such as tension in your shoulders or clenching your fists. This is the time to literally count to 10. By this action your mind is given the necessary time to begin to slow down, thus allowing you to think more clearly and overcome the impulse to lash out.

 

Breathe slowly. We can often breathe in for up to four times longer than breathing out. This can raise our anxiety levels considerably and thus make us more prone to anger. Remember – breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you breathe out.

 

 

Managing anger in the longer term

Once you’re able to recognise the signs that you’re getting angry and can calm yourself down, you can start looking at ways to control your anger more generally.

 

Exercise. Regular light exercise has long been associated with improved well being. Most forms of physical exercise can have a positive beneficial effect on our anger management. Take care of yourself. Take time to relax regularly, and ensure that you get enough sleep. Drugs and alcohol can and often do make anger problems worse.

 

 

Try and be Creative

Writing, making music, dancing or painting, arts and crafts can release tension and help reduce feelings of anger. Talk about how you are feeling with a trusted person.

 

Discussing your feelings with a friend can be useful, and can help you get a different perspective on the situation. Look at the way you think. Unhelpful ways of thinking will need re-adjusting.

 

 

Remember

Blaming thoughts (words we say to ourselves that blame others or us), or shaming thoughts (self condemning words that we say to ourselves about others or us) can make our anger worse.

 

Thinking in this way (blaming and shaming) will keep you focused on whatever it is that is making you angry. Let these thoughts go, and it will be easier to calm down.

 

Avoid phrases that include always, never, should, must, ought, fair, for example: Always (for example, “You always do that”), Never (“You never listen to me”), Should/Shouldn’t (“You should do what I want”, or “You shouldn’t be on the roads”), Must/Mustn’t (“I must be on time”, or “I mustn’t be late”), and Ought/Oughtn’t (“People ought to get out of my way”), it’s not fair on yourself.

 

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We are able to see clients strictly by appointment only and our practice is strictly governed by the BACP and FDAP code of ethics for practice.

A professional Psychological counselling service from a fully qualified counsellorwithin easy reach of Canterbury, Herne Bay, Dover, Folkestone, Deal, Whitstable, Minster, Sittingbourne, Ashford, Faversham, Whitfield, Sandwich. One minute from Canterbury East Station.

To arrange an appointment call 01227 290 098

Understanding your Anger

Anger becomes the predominant feeling, behaviourally, cognitively, and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behaviour of another outside force. Anger can have many mental as well as physical consequences. The external expression of anger can be found in facial expressions, body language, physiological responses, and at times in public acts of aggression.

 

Humans and animals for example make loud sounds, attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth, and stare. The behaviours associated with anger are designed to warn aggressors to stop their threatening behaviour. Rarely does a physical altercation occur without the prior expression of anger by at least one of the participants

 

For a private consultation with a fully qualified therapist call 01227 290 098

 

Dealing with anger

There are numerous techniques that we employ in therapy. Below are self help based views on how to effectively cope with managing anger. If you are concerned about your own or some else’s anger please feel able to contact Us and ask for counselling with Natalie Prior.

 

When becoming angry the heart beats faster and you breathe more quickly, preparing your body for action. You might also notice other signs, such as tension in your shoulders or clenching your fists. Literally count to 10. This gives your mind time to slow down so you can think more clearly and overcome the impulse to lash out. Breathe slowly.

 

We often breathe in for up to four times longer than breathing out. This can raise our anxiety levels considerably and thus make us more prone to anger. Remember – breathe out for longer than you breathe in, and relax as you breathe out.

 

For a private consultation with a fully qualified Psychological therapist call 01227 290 098

Managing anger in the longer term

Once you’re able to recognise the signs that you’re getting angry and can calm yourself down, you can start looking at ways to control your anger more generally.

 

Exercise, regular light exercise has long been associated with improved well being. Most forms of physical exercise can have a positive beneficial effect on our anger management. Take care of yourself.

 

Take time to relax regularly, and ensure that you get enough sleep. Drugs and alcohol can and often do make anger problems worse. Try and be creative. Writing, making music and dancing or painting, arts and crafts can release tension and help reduce feelings of anger. Talk about it.

 

Discussing your feelings with a friend can be useful, and can help you get a different perspective on the situation. Look at the way you think.

 

Unhelpful ways of thinking will need re adjusting. Blaming thoughts (words we say to ourselves that blame others or us), or shaming thoughts (self condemning words that we say to ourselves about others or us) can make our anger worse. Thinking in this way (blaming and shaming) will keep you focused on whatever it is that is making you angry. Let these thoughts go, and it will be easier to calm down.

 

Avoid phrases that include always, never, should, must, ought, fair, for example: Always (for example, “You always do that”), Never (“You never listen to me”), Should/Shouldn’t (“You should do what I want”, or “You shouldn’t be on the roads”), Must/Mustn’t (“I must be on time”, or “I mustn’t be late”), and Ought/Oughtn’t (“People ought to get out of my way”), It’s not fair on yourself.

 

For a private consultation with a fully qualified therapist call 01227 290 098